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Submitted by Brent on August 27, 2007 – 5:40 pm73 Comments

I make this blank wall look stylish ;-)

If you can find it in your heart to forgive me for such a delayed follow up to my previous post I would be most grateful ;-) It isn’t of course that I don’t have much to say; or even that I don’t want to say it. As always, some words are better than none. So, here are a few ;-) I admit, I am no stranger to writers block. Sometimes it flows easily, some times it doesn’t.

First, Grant arrived home Friday evening from the pretrial in Pennsylvania regarding Harlow and Joe and Bryan’s death. I stayed in close touch with Grant while he was away but I must admit I’ve remained fairly distant from this process lately. Out of everything else I’ve been through thus far in my life, this criminal investigation is by far the most stressful, trying situations I have ever found myself in. I don’t like to talk about it here because I don’t want every word I choose to be dissected and over analyzed by the radical fanatics; sort of like keeping gasoline cans away from the fire pit if you know what I mean. The difficult part is that I would really like to make statements about it but I’m having a hard time figuring out what is appropriate and what isn’t. I’ve had to rewrite this paragraph more than once just to get it to a point where I felt comfortable publishing it.

Harlow and Joe are moving forward with a trial. This is the part where I’m reminded that no matter how much I want all this to be behind me; this isn’t over.

Life doesn’t stop and I’m not here hanging in mid air waiting to come back to Earth with my feet planted firmly beneath me.

I spent nearly 48 hours in Los Angeles this past week handling this project I’ve been meekly alluding to. Albert is right in that if I really want to see this one go through, I need to keep my trap shut and focus on getting it before I start blowing off a bunch of boastful claims. What I will tell is that this is a film written, created and researched by a young yet accomplished writer in Hollywood. The movie is based on one of world history’s most important and inspiring figures. He’s referred to in many songs and is seen as one of the, if not the, foremost figure advocating equal rights for EVERYONE – minorities, all classes of society, and especially all sexual orientations. This movie is a period piece yet its themes and the messages told therein are timeless and are completely applicable today. I want this so bad because on so many levels I can relate here. It’s political, it’s activist, it’s a beautiful story. It’s a shame – and I’m well acquainted with what that means.

The problem with new opportunities is that they don’t always fit all together at once into your life. With the day job, the new venture, and then thinking about the development of other projects around me – and now this mainstream project (which may be way out of my league anyway?). There are times when I think I can do it all. Then there are times when I feel like the only way I’m going to get anything done is if I concentrate and focus at one thing at a time.

This mainstream project deal has Grant and I a little frayed on the edges. Foolishly I went into this project feeling like being Brent Corrigan was an asset. Grant and I have mixed feelings and emotions about some of the people involved in the deal. After a few bombshell (the bad bombshell kind) business moves Grant and I are a little gun shy. We don’t just trust people anymore. It’s sad but we can’t afford to be screwed around anymore and so that means protecting ourselves. A lot of people can’t understand this so we have passed on a few project ideas lately. One was a DVD project I was developing, but because of time and our inability to be able to protect ourselves right away in another business deal we finally decided to wait until we could produce something in a more simpler fashion. Sorry to get off track here.

in my underwear - how APPROPRIATE!

What’s the deal with this feature film project?

There may be some apprehension on the business side of things that could possibly prevent me from making the leap from this side of the tracks to that – with my name intact. Grant feels that we’ve fought for the name Brent Corrigan, that it’s important to maintain it proudly and keep it consistent (no matter where we are). I’ve been told that if I want to approach this movie deal seriously and if I want increase my real chances of getting this part, I may have to leave Brent Corrigan the tag and title out of this one. Grant’s argument to that is WHY?! When actresses like Jenna Jamison and Tracey Lords aren’t asked to hide behind their legal names for their mainstream work. My response is I’m nothing like either of those women – I’m gay, I’m not as established, and I have no intentions of choosing between mainstream work and the gay adult world. Tracey Lords left the world of porno behind for Hollywood. Some ask why (I’m going to look into reading her book just out of curiosity)? Do you think it had anything to do with the managers and executive producers telling her it’s one or the other? Jenna Jamison has marketability – the right and safe kind, for her cameos.

Who am I? Just some backwards homo boy who’s good at writing a few words and is recognized for some risqué camera work. I’m not at all putting myself down here, but I honestly don’t feel like I’m in the position to demand things on a multi-million dollar movie set while working alongside A list actors. Especially with how homophobic Hollywood is.

That’s a thought though. Lets look at that for a second. It seems pretty simple to me. Why is Hollywood so homophobic? Because the people that collectively spend billions of dollars each year to see these movies in theaters also reflect widespread homophobic feelings. Really, it’s not a whole lot more complicated than that. Sex sells, but gay sex only sells to 10% of America. I would really like to hear all of your thoughts and reflections on the matter.

Grant says one day I will have the name equity to hold true to my principles. He insists I avoid blowing my wad because of a little starstruck desperation. Maybe it’s just that I can’t seem to see past the end of my nose – but life doesn’t always throw these things your way in perfect sequence and with the perfect climate to make it all work.

My feelings are that I want this project because of what it means – I want to be a part of this. I admit whole heartedly, the figure this movie is about I had no clue who he was until I got the opportunity for a role in it. I’m a 20 year old gay boy who’s just a little bit more socially and politically aware than the average 20 year old gay boy. Lets face it, many of us read more Perez Hilton than we do the Advocate, Out or Time Magazine. Based on my own experience (with friends and spending time with my peers) this movie is going to be bigger and mean more than a depressing love story about two cowboys. This movie will educate my generation about why homosexuals have hardly broken further ground in our quest for equal rights. Ack! Now I’m ranting a little bit.

I’m willing to do what I can to maximize the chances of me getting this role, no matter how small it is – without compromising myself and while maintaining my principles. Yes, ladies and gentlemen: a gay porn star does have principles! I’m all for sticking up for what I stand for, but at the end of the day am I willing to bend that a little to finally take a step closer to what I want? Maybe.

I’m not complaining here. Despite all this, I would regret it if I try and make this part work out. I fully intend on preparing myself as best as I possibly can. I’m going to go in to that audition and read my 3 lines – being myself. The character’s profile fits mine and I’d be hurting myself to try and be someone else. The saddening part is that in this case, I’m having to face a fear of mine that has kept me from actively pursuing work of a more mainstream value. This time, it’s not a question of inadequacy but whether or not I am appropriate (according to those making the decisions) for this movie. Who I am and who I want to be may prevent me from achieving this. That is, just for now anyway ;-)

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  • jerry says:

    brent

    it seems you left off the fact that the people offering you this role are giving you the run around sorta, either theyll give you the three lines or not and your willing to use your real name but thats it, if they are professional people in hollywood and yes that sounds like an oxymoron they would have you come in and read the lines and maybe a call back or two and then they either give you the part or tell you theyre going with someone else, you have issues with dicernment or being able to recognize others intentions and so you wind up in the worst perdictaments possible, your not alone in that but at some point age will no longer be an excuse, doh

    jerry

  • macropus says:

    HELLOOOOOOO!!!!! Alarm bells going off here…

    Let’s see now, Brent and Grant have a history of becoming directly or indirectly involved in scandalous and unhealthy schemes ranging in scope from acting in underage porn, nasty civil law suits about name copyrights, the murder of a studio boss and dealings with unscrupulous businessmen.

    I can only hope that history is not repeating itself, because I remember an old therapist telling me “Past behaviour is a good indicater of future behaviour”. Accordingly, Brent (and his ally, Grant) need to get real about what is happening and separate other people’s bullshit from their own hopes and naivety.

    This is not about fucking ‘Brent Corrigan’ the name, because that is a symptom, amongst other dubious signs, that what is going on in this movie role scenario is at best slightly devious, to at worse another diabolical chapter in the book of Brent. Sure, this might make good reading when the autobiography is published in the future, but what about the consequences on lives being lead today?

    Damn guys, you made some poor decisions in the past, and it might be time to get your heads out of your asses and stop being so fucking gullible. Let’s get real here and take a look in the mirror. If you reflect on the troubles of the past you will see that things weren’t just done to you and in fact in many instances you played an active role in eventual injurious outcomes. I am not blaming you for being taken advantage of, but if you fail to take some responsibility for how your actions contributed to consequences then you will always be vulnerable and at the mercy of others.

    Change the things you can. Don’t walk into a trap voluntarily and turn around later and point the finger at the bad man. PROTECT yourselves personally and professionally whilst you still can. Surely this is the lesson to be learnt from the turbulent past. It might be time to test if your experiences have taught you anything. Don’t be the victim if you can evade capture.

    On the other hand :) I hope everything works out for the best, and Grant’s suspicions do not end up being confirmed by an unpleasant outcome. Naivety is a nice gay porn boy quality, but Brent is a man living in the real world who must remain aware and make self protective adult choices. Take care, and proceed with caution. Nobody said life was meant to be easy, but for fucks sake, avoid making it any harder if given the opportunity.

    Lovingly but sternly
    J.

  • ExHack says:

    Grant,

    Thank you for the backstory that Brent didn’t fully share. I stand by my earlier advice, for him to do what he believes (with the benefit of your and others’ best advice and counsel) is right and good for him, for his soul and his long-term career arc. And, from the sound of the characters you describe – I’ve lived, worked and done business in some rough industries and tough towns, including here in Vegas; I “know” these types – I wouldn’t show them your unarmored backs if I were Brent or you.

  • Albert says:

    Grant, what you describe has nothing to do with Brent’s name or the part itself. You describe a person we here in Texas and most of the mid west would call less than forthcoming. (I modified my original native Texan words to fit a more international audience.) That type of person would lose me after the second change in terms. My dad would have dropped them at the first change. As I get older, I am becoming more like my dad and I am beginning to like that.
    Brent, I hope you get the part and are able to use YOUR name. It was an intriguing question and getting Grant involved is a good thing.
    Love from Texas, Albert

  • er says:

    I must say BRAVO!

    To all Brent’s fans who have expressed their opinions in this matter, you have expressed a deep care for the future of our hero. I particularly want to complement DamianX for his well thought and balanced treatise.

    Grant,
    I want to thank you also, for your responses to my comments. I also want to thank you for you’re in depth explanation in comment #42. It more than ever reinforced my opinion that you and I are correct in our judgment in this.

    Brent,
    I want to state again that I am and will forever be your fan no matter what you decide regarding the name issue, or for that matter how your public career develops. I would suggest that if you do chose another name for this endeavor, that it be other than your real name. You need to shield your private life from your public one as much as is possible in this age of instant information. Actors have been shot dead at there door by psychopaths. Always be on guard! Maybe this is reason enough for a different name. I know it would be the only possible reason for a name change.

    I don’t think that your safety is the reason for these people to want that of course. From Grant’s explanation in #42 I see that it is just another attempt by men with greedy intentions to dominate you. The casting couch scenario must come into play here as well. Of course experience has taught you to be on guard for these people. I think the desire to “Break Out” into the “Main Stream” has given you the main emotional conflict that has caused you to question your better judgment. I can feel that in your blog statement.

    I am certain of this; you stated in an interview that you had not been involved in an orgy yet. Well I think you have, but not a sexual one. This blog is certainly a “Thought Orgy”. It is, in a different way, just as pleasurable as the kind that gets your dick hard. I want to complement you on your writing skills that make this most enjoyable orgy successful. Please continue to titillate our minds intellectually as well as sexually.

    Ernie

  • DL says:

    Having the Brent Corrigan name is totally an asset — its well known, and fame (or infamy) is probably the most valuable asset in Hollywood. Using the Sean Lockhart name wouldn’t exactly be a problem either… its still good publicity to you.

    Grant makes it sound like they’re taking advantage of you, so I’ll wish ya good luck, and you should be cautious… but not everybody is out to get you. I know you’ve had bad experiences in the past, so don’t throw caution to the wind, but remember to take SOME risks as long as the potential loss isn’t too great. This project sounds like it could be a good thing, so without knowing all detail, I say go for it! How else can you find out the answer to your question of “whether or not you’re appropriate for the movie”?
    If you decide that’s who you want to be, good luck on your audition and at the very least have fun in LA, maybe I’ll bump into ya!

    David

  • feltonhz says:

    What’s more,I think that we should respect Brent’s choice,this is the most important,AM I RIGHT?If the fans have different opinions,Brent will feel difficult to choose,so whatever Brent choose,let’s support him forever!

  • davidlondon davidmlondon says:

    hey brent
    kl to see a new post
    as sumone else said we know u have principles and is one of the reasons we like you so much
    gd luck with the new project
    cant waqit to hr what else you have instore
    from your biggest uk fan
    David (london,england)

  • feltonhz says:

    Yeah,I’m really thanks to Brent and Grant,they taught me a lot ,like how to live in the society and how to make better as a fan.Grant,Right?Brent also taught me a lot,like never give up and how to make friends with others better.Brent,Grant,thanks!
    From your biggest CHN fan,Felton.( hehe,like#58)

  • er says:

    Feltonhz, you said:
    “What’s more,I think that we should respect Brent’s choice,this is the most important,AM I RIGHT?If the fans have different opinions,Brent will feel difficult to choose,so whatever Brent choose,let’s support him forever!”

    YOU ARE SO RIGHT!

    I think that the grand counsel of Brent Nation has spoken and the chief has enough opinions to think about in order to make his judgment.

    Let us now adjourn to await his decision.

    Does any one else have a comment that has not been discussed so far?

    If not, then this current Brent Corrigan Thought Orgy is adjourned. ;)

    Ernie

    PS: Don’t let me stop you from saying more folks, I’m just being cute! ;)

  • dewayneinsd dewayneinsd says:

    Hey Brent look to your left, see the mirror? Tell your self this,,,

    “I am very lucky to have such fans! Fans that want the best for me, fans who are concerned, fans who instead of blind praise & adoration take the time to write thoughtful advice and yes criticism when warranted. But they can’t make up my mind for me”

    Brent this mantra may help you remember something. You have a unique place in the World of Celebrity, you are the first Gay Adult Star to make such a connection with his audience to cultivate a “Cult of Personality”. Other mainstream Celebs have had a devoted fan base you’re just the first GayPorn Star to have one.

    You would think that would give you a swelled head but no you see the responsibility, you do ask for our input, our guidance. But in the end as I and many others have commented You alone have to make the next move.

    Brent if it does not “feel right” or pass the “Smell test” then you know it probably is not “right for you”! And if it was not legitimate what have you passed on? Another negative experience, you (and Grant) have had enough of those!

    Maybe your Matthew Ryan film is instructive here, you had the same doubts (why do they want me) and you seemed to figure that out and made it work.

    Finally, most important now, you need to find a Balance between your fear of being taken advantage of and moving forward with legitimate projects. If you are not careful you will be “Paralyzed by Fear” unable to commit or make a move.

    I know you have good reasons for self-doubt with the first 2 men in your life(Chris & Bryan) having such a negative impact. But THEY were the aberration, you know this!

    You have good people in your life, good people want to be friends or help you out because they like you, Sean Lockhart for who you are NOT because they want to “Hump your Ass!”
    Actions DO speak louder than Words!

    BTW someone mentioned a Casting Couch. Haven’t you heard The Casting Couch is a MYTH, there is no such thing, Hollywood is full of Ethical, Professional Men who would rather DIE than bed a young attractive boy like you just on the pretense of a movie role!

    How do I know this?
    Why Robert Wagner told me, he said the Casting Couch was a figment of your “perverted” imagination! Bryan was just being AMUSING when he named his audition videos “The Casting Couch” RIGHT!!!

    Think the Sarcasm is a little thick?

    Bryan to Harlow; “I hope you brought a bag because YOU ARE staying the night!”

    RIGHT!
    MYTH My ASS!

  • t-man says:

    Brent-
    after reading grants comments (42). I would say that the name change is a small part of his real concerns. if what he presents in his document is accurate then I would say stand clear of the whole thing. your eloquent way of writing has acted as a smoke shield with regards to the real issues here.
    therefore my original opinion changes drastically with this new information.
    grant, I thank you for clearing up the real issues here.
    brent
    don’t convince yourself that this is the last chance for mainstream work. but mainstream work should be difficult for someone at your age who has little real acting experiences. I don’t mean to reduce your talents here, but Grant is correct to be suspicious of those so quickly to assign an actor with little background and in such a rediculous context.
    don’t just turn from this deal but run and run quickly.
    perhaps next time you ask for opinion give grant a better oportunity to give his take on things, after all he is the only one who has as much information as you do. your public only have your words to work from.
    I feel that your message was delivered with the desire for confirmation or forgiveness in advance. And we always support you regardless of the name.
    I am not saying you were being deceptive but perhaps incomplete.
    I am going to have to go with Grants gut feeling on this one. after all if it smells rotten something probably is. if it is just unbelievable than you are just being cautious.

  • er says:

    feltonhz,

    I want you to know that I did not want to make any fun about your comment and I really do think you are right. I just wanted to say that there have been so many opinions here that it may be enough for Brent. But I don’t want to stop people from making their comments. I just wanted people to understand my thought that this is a lot of talk and it may be enough about it for now.

    Ernie

  • feltonhz says:

    Ernie,I’m quite agree with you,Thank you for telling me about that,what you say makes a lot of sense.Hehe(My English is poor,so I thnk there is something wrong in my words,don’t mind them.)I think too many comments may make a boy who in difficulty happier,but the comments are really enough for Brent.China has an old saying’团结力量大’.In English,it means that ‘SOLIDARITY is large power.’I do not know my translation whether is good or not,but I hope that more people could give Brent POWER,and make him happier is original intention,right?
    WITH MUCH LOVE,Feltonhz

  • geoff harvard says:

    What is fiction, and how does it operate in our lives?

  • marmaduke says:

    ”What’s in a name?that which we call a rose
    By any other name would smell as sweet.
    (Romeo & Juliet).

    Why all the fuss? It’s not uncommon for artistes,authors etc. to have several names.They use them in the context of the genre they are working in.You could easily use more than one yourself.Don’t limit yourself by being hung up on the one name which is still carrying too much old baggage.
    As for auditions;I’ve done plenty so I know;just do your preparation-know what you have to do backwards,forwards and upside down-and go and do it.You will always have a degree of nervousness so take several deep breaths and walk in.You have what it takes.If you don’t get the part then it’s because you are not what they want for that precise thing;not because you are no good!I have auditioned for roles and been turned down;then been called back and offered a different part.You have to keep focussed and keep trying.
    All this may well take some time but you’re not on the bread line.Many of us have had to work at the day-job to pay for singing and piano lessons whilst getting as many local engagements (low or no pay) as we could before making it.You’ll just have to keep at it – you’ll do it! GOOD LUCK!

  • ushah says:

    There’s a lot of good advice here, but there also seems to be some asskissing, maybe with hopes that they’ll become closer to Brent someday. My angle, and many may not care to hear, is that life is full of challenges. Brent’s best interests must be looked after whether he be Brent, Sean or a different name. Some are harping on this fact that they fought so hard for the name. While we must take all things into consideration, that was yesterday’s challenge. It’s over with, and if it’s in Brent’s best interest to drop the name, then head on to the next challenge in life.

    Brent Corrigan won’t make the project a success. As far as I’m seeing, he’s trying to build a life – a future. The product has to be a good one. The fans will follow. Anyone that’s Brent-crazy will know that he is a part of the project, but people who go to see movies just because Brent is in it won’t make Brent’s future brighter. It’ll be a quick, little fix that will have no effect on the longterm. Now, put out a quality project and that will change his life forever.

    It bothers me to hear about the struggles. One guy above talked about taking responsibility for ones own actions and not fully placing blame on others. I agree with him 100%. I have read so much about Brent over the years that I want him to succeed. I want him to be a breakout star in something other than porn. Now, that’s my want and that may certainly not gel with his, but he needs to move forward in a positive way.

    90% of you may get upset at this next comment, but I don’t watch Brent hardcore porn anymore. Is he a ridiculously hot guy? YES! And I enjoy the few pictures on the site, including the nude ones. But there’s a certain amount of respect and admiration I feel for him when I got to know his story.

    Brent can do more. He shouldn’t be held back for a name. To hell with the name. That was yesterday’s news. If he can do something else with his life that is more fulfilling and more positive and be happy, instead of life always kicking him in his face, then do it. In Hollywood, lots of people give up their “too Jewish” or “too ethnic” names. Is this selling out? I don’t see why it would be, as long as you keep yourself grounded and normal. You’re you. Who the fuck cares what they call you. Maybe (and I stress maybe) it would be a good idea to get rid of the negativity associated with Brent Corrigan) and live life to the fullest.

    Again, I don’t know what Brent should do. He will have to figure that out for himself. This is just my take on the matter. I just don’t understand why the name is such a big deal just because you fought so hard for it. That was yesterday’s fight. Move onto the next challenge.

  • chaz030587 says:

    1st of all love the pictures.i hope u do get the movie role they need to make more gay movies and i think ud be a good person to star in them u have the face the body and not sure if u can act or not but with a face and body like that i dont think itd matter to most pple if they ws like me lol.

  • Albert says:

    When Thales was asked what was difficult, he said, “To know one’s self.”
    And when asked what was easy, “To advise another.” :)

  • dewayneinsd dewayneinsd says:

    Albert I love giving free advice! I just hate it when people offer the same to me. At least Brent asks us to contemplate his belly button and seeks guidance from our studious gaze! ,,,,
    Wait I forgot the question,,uh Brent what did you want to know? ;)

  • t-man says:

    Dewayneinsd-
    As for your comments item (70).
    what a great way to end this conversation.
    this sort of takes a different direction and reminds us to have fun along the way. thanks

  • ch.maryland says:

    Hey Brent & Everyone,

    Wow so much has gone on here in the past two days, I got to catch up. I feel like I’ve missed the bus. Brent you’ve really gotten people eager to write about something. I’ve read a few comments, not all, so I’m pretty sure I’m going to reiterate some things that have already been said.

    I would partially agree with your view that Hollywood is homophobic because the audiences spending their money express homophobic feelings. I’m reminded of a time where my English instructor required all of his students to catch a showing of that “depressing love story about two cowboys.” I was sitting there in the theater near a middle aged couple who apparently didn’t know what the movie was about. Well, when the first love scene between the two cowboys took place, the couple was so upset and grossed out that they had to leave the theater. They looked as if they were on the verge of vomiting. However, I could barely make out what was going on in the movie, the scene was so dark and it wasn’t graphic at all. I was a little surprised this scene could affect people that way. So you are right in saying that many moviegoers are very homophobic and I’m sure Hollywood takes that into account when they decide which projects to push forward and which to toss out. But, at the same time Hollywood did go forward with Brokeback Mountain, and there seem to be other breakthroughs going on. Ellen Degeneres for instance, has been having immense success with her show for the past four years. Although, she did struggle in Hollywood with prior shows after she stated she was a lesbian 10 years ago. And I might even attribute some of her recent success to being the voice of a very popular Disney character the same year her talk show premiered. But, at least ABC, CBS, WB television, and Disney were all willing to take a risk with Ellen. We can also see in examples like the different “Queer Eye” series, or “Will & Grace” which ran for 8 years, that gay themed shows can be successful and can even have a pretty decent life span (W&G ran pretty long as far as sitcoms go). Then there’s Rosie O’Donnell who was brought on to the “The View” last year and practically boosted the show’s ratings single handedly. So it appears people are coming around when it comes to gays in Hollywood. I admit I can’t speak for the quality of these programs because I’ve never really watched them. Not because they’re horrible or anything, but because I just don’t watch much TV. It’s possible these few programs I mentioned are bad examples of accomplished shows, and if so forget I said anything :) . My point is that I recognize there’s a lot of work that needs to be done in Hollywood, but there has definitely been some progress and improvement.

    About the potential film project – the way you’ve describe this advocate for equal rights has made me very curious who this film is about. One thing that stuck out for me in your entry though is where you write, “Grant and I have mixed feelings and emotions about some of the people involved in the deal.” I can just hear my mom say, “Those mixed feelings and emotions are your first sign that something isn’t right with this whole deal.” She would say to listen to that inner voice and trust those instincts.

    Anyway, as far as the name change goes – that’s a tough one. My initial thought was that it isn’t such a huge deal. Actors use different aliases all the time in film and TV. Then I thought if I were in the same position would I like the idea of changing my name. Much like you, I certainly would be very hesitant to do so, especially if there had been so much work involved to retain that name for myself. I’m not going to pretend I have the answer, what I do think is that you should take everyone’s advise/ suggestions/ comments ( and there are definitely a lot of them here :) ) with a grain of salt.

    I recently had to make two major decisions that have greatly affected my life. I sought my parents advice because every once in a great while I do realize that they are smart and have a little wisdom to share. I expected that they would take a strong stance on one of my options and encourage me to decide one way (especially since my mom can be so opinionated :) ). But to my surprise they didn’t try to push me in any direction. They understood and appreciated the sensitivity of the dilemma I was in, and said the choice ultimately was mine. Both of my parents confessed that they have dreams of how they picture my life turning out, but they have come to accept that although they’d love for their dream to come true for me, it is my life and I’m the only one who has to live it. I guess this came to mind because one thing they explained is that there are a lot of people in my life, family and friends, who will try to help by telling me I should do, and more often than not they give advice that will accomplish what THEY feel is best for me but sometimes forget to ask what I want for myself (ESPECIALLY in my family, where everyone feels it’s their duty to butt into your business :) ). So I was reminded by my parents that regardless of what I decide, what is most important is that I needed to be happy and able to live with myself with no regrets. It should be asked of you what you want most for yourself. We know you’d like to have both the part and keep the name but if came down to choosing one over the other, which battle do you feel is worth surrendering? – The part in the film for the use of your name, or the name to get this part? You’re undoubtedly going to hear people say, “Well Brent, if I were you I’d have done this…”, or “If I were in your position I would have done that…”, or “Had it been me I would have done this, that, and the other…” But people so often tend to give advice/ suggestions/ and make comments and then we go on about our merrily day, we don’t really have to deal with the consequences if someone decides to adhere to our advice. I’ve even seen where someone has taken the advice given, gotten screwed over after following the advice, complained to the person they got the advice from and was then told, “Well that’s your fault for listening to me.” Cold-blooded :) . Anyway, so it’s fine listening to what others have to say, however understand that they and I aren’t the ones having to live with the final decision. You don’t want to hate yourself months later for taking the advice from someone or all of us and then wondering to yourself either, “What if I had just changed my name and taken the job?”, or “Why did I agree to change my name for this part?”

    So sorry I couldn’t be much help with the name issues, but good luck with that whole project and I hope things turnout alright. That’s it from me and take care everyone.

  • er says:

    I just read your blog again Brent,

    Did you ask for advice in there somewhere? :)
    Oh well, it’s free advice, and worth every penny! ;)

    Success!

    Ernie

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